To Be Heard, Seen, and Valued
In the dance of love and companionship, feeling understood, appreciated, and cherished is the rhythm that keeps our hearts beating. Let’s delve into why these elements matter and how they shape the fabric of a meaningful relationship.
The Gift of True Understanding
When your partner truly understands you, it’s like a warm embrace for your soul. You feel seen, known, and accepted. This understanding goes beyond mere surface-level conversations; it delves into the depths of your emotions, fears, and dreams. When you share your innermost thoughts, and your partner listens with empathy, it’s incredibly validating and nurturing.
I always felt lonely in my relationship. I could not talk about my innermost thoughts or dreams. It was said to stop dreaming and be realistic.
The Power of Validation
Being understood verifies your sense of self. It assures you that who you believe you are is justified. Knowing that you are being appreciated and can be yourself is a reward. It’s like finding a safe harbour where your essence is acknowledged and celebrated.
When your partner is not validating you, you feel lost and insecure. I tried to relate to his standards for validation. Instead, I became another personality.
Appreciation and Cherishing
Feeling valued goes beyond being heard; it is about genuine recognition. When your partner cherishes who you are—the quirks, imperfections and all. You know you matter deeply. The little gestures, the heartfelt compliments, and the unwavering support create this sense of value.
Some days, I was being cherished and felt valued.
Creating a Relationship Where Both Thrive
In a healthy relationship, both partners actively contribute to each other’s well-being. They create an environment where being seen and valued is a daily practice. Acts of kindness, no matter how small, or shared laughter, build a foundation of mutual respect and admiration.
1. Listen with your heart, not just your ears. Put away distractions, focus on your partner, and seek to understand their perspective. Show genuine interest in what concerns them.
2. Don’t hold back on compliments. Let your partner know what you appreciate about them—their kindness, intelligence, or how they make you laugh.
3. Acknowledge each other’s strengths and quirks. Celebrate the individuality that makes your relationship unique.
In the symphony of love, being heard, seen, and valued is the sweetest melody. Remember, love isn’t just about grand gestures; it’s in the everyday moments where we truly connect. And when you haven’t found Him yet, love yourself….. it is your birthright.
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